"Television has proved that people will look at anything rather than each other." -Ann Landers
I personally find this to be particularly true in my relationship. When we were younger, before the mind-dulling fulltime jobs and other draining responsibilities of adult life, both Bryan and I filled our time with meaningful activities such as writing poems, playing musical instruments, skateboarding, playing sports, scrapbooking, etc. Now when we have free time we usually ask ourselves whether we want a movie or a rerun.
For the past few years, these activities have depressed me and made me miserable. I feel like we both lost who we were and part of what we so deeply loved about eachother(along with any shape/figure and talents we used to have). Now that we're turning the corner and plummeting toward our wedding day, I'm so much more concerned! If this is what we're like at 24 with little reponsibility, what will we be like in 10 years with the same responsibilities and likely having multiple children in school? I can't bear to imagine it...
On the other side - Bryan misses his old hobbies, but he's still 100% content with watching TV and movies all day. He LOVES it. Half as a joke/half ready to jump on it if he did agree(1% chance of that...), I told him yesterday that I thought the TV was evil and I wanted to get rid of it. His reaction was expected... He wouldn't even consider the notion.
What happened next was to MY surprise. After I got home, we ate dinner, gave Marsha her cake, and sat down on the couch to watch them eat it. On the weekend when Bryan is at work, I will literally go ALL day without having the TV on, and the second he walks in, he goes straight for the remote. Well, last night he didn't. Thanks to that, he ended up doing some dishes and we took the girls on a walk to burn off some of their cake. Small change, but a change nontheless!
This morning when I made my daily call to let him know I was on my way to work, I made it a point to bring up last night and how much I loved it as well as to see how he felt about it. He decided that I was right and suggested a rule that the TV doesn't come on until 9 o'clock! I can't say that it will definitely stick for very long, but here's to giving it a hell of a try!